Overcome Your Goal Achievement Obstacles
Ask Yourself :
Is something holding me back from reaching my goals?
Do I feel unworthy or inadequate to accomplish my personal goals?
Does my fear of success often immobilize and defeat me?
Do I wish I were more confident to act to get what I truly want?
If you answered “YES,” you are NOT alone!
When Hal, an experienced and talented therapist, came to me, he was in the dumps because of his sinking career, working part-time in a community clinic, and barely surviving on his savings. Despite his therapeutic skills, he felt unable to present himself to potential employers. He knew he could do the job, but felt others wouldn’t believe him. He didn’t know what to say and ask. When he interviewed, his body language screamed lack of confidence.
In four weeks he had discovered what was holding him back and had created new résumé to pinpoint where he had succeeded. After only four months, he knew how to present himself confidently and communicate professionally with potential employers. In a very short time he was snapped up for the job as leading therapist and spokesperson for a regional chain of weight-loss hypnotherapy centers, making nearly six figures.
What is Holding You Back?
Holding you back are unconscious thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, and feelings that you can’t or shouldn’t do something because … The “because” stems from your childhood and often results in a self-fulfilling prophecy and vicious cycle. It is almost a form of “insanity” where you keep doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
One way that these resistances to doing what you need to do often shows up is as anxiety in social situations. For example, fear of speaking in front of others is Americans’ #1 fear. This performance anxiety is so strong that it leaves fear of death well behind it in seventh place. It is so common that humorist Mark Twain remarked, “There are two types of speakers: those that are nervous and those that are liars.” Jerry Seinfeld once quipped, “At a funeral most people would rather be in the casket than giving the eulogy.”
This may result from a fear of success or failure wherein you fear being in a situation you feel incapable of handling, being negatively evaluated by others, found inadequate, and being embarrassed and/or rejected. Discovering the resistance and reducing the anxiety is only half the solution.
What Does Confidence Have to Do With It?
Confidence is a control-related belief that you have the ability to manage particular kinds of activities, mobilize your motivation, control your cognitive and emotional reactions to it, and achieve your desired outcomes—better known as SUCCESS!
Self-confidence is an expectation of success in tasks that you undertake. It is a positive appraisal of your personal assets and resources to master and solve problem, and deal with threats. Furthermore, it’s a belief in your ability to carry out your plans, reach your goals, and succeed at specific tasks or meet challenges to achieve what you want.
Why Do You Need Interpersonal Skills?
Research has shown repeatedly that the #1 cause of personal and professional success is confident, effective interpersonal skills. No matter what you do or where you do it … if you want to reach your goals, you must be able to communicate clearly and confidently with people, connect with them, to tell them what you are doing and what you want from them. In other words: being people smart.
Being people smart means you can confidently perceive, understand, and access your emotions and those of others. It means being empathetic and being able to put yourself in the other’s shoes. It means being able to step back from the situation to objectively see the two sides of the issue and address it rationally and empathetically.
Being people smart is highly associated with confidence and success. They work together to reduce your social anxiety and allow you to achieve your goals. As your resistance and social fears diminish, your confidence increases to accomplish your dreams, whatever they may be.
What Can My Coaching Accomplish for You?
Having coached for over 30 years and overcome resistances, generalized social anxiety disorder, and low self-confidence, I can help you:
- Minimize your physical symptoms of distress
- Eliminate your fearful thoughts, erroneous beliefs, and negative expectations
- Develop carved-in-granite self-confidence
- Bolster your interpersonal communication skill strengths
- Increase your feeling of control over tasks and situations
- Forge your ability to meet any challenges and overcome any obstacle
- Create a success foundation you can build on.
What Does Your Confident Success Achievement Coach Do?
As a social psychologist, experienced, knowledgeable mentor and personal guide, I
- Listen with caring and compassion
- Aid you in articulating what you want
- Help you clarify your strengths
- Keep you focused and challenged
- Act as a sounding board
- Provide honest feedback, unconditional support, tools, and structure
- Help build your confidence, competence, people and social skills
- Stretch you to explore your potential
- Guide you in creating and fulfilling your vision
- Celebrate your success
How Does Confident Success Achievement Coaching Work?
Coaching is generally done by telephone and e-mail. You and I set up a weekly schedule. You call me at a predetermined time for each session. Together we make a detailed plan for you to follow. Each week we will review how your past week has gone, what you have achieved, what it means for your plan, and what you need to do to achieve the next step.
I will assign homework and make recommendations so that you can remain focused and on-task. The work is concentrated and intense. Each task results in a small success which significantly further builds your confidence. Each successful task leads to the next step in your confident goal achievement plan so you can finally FREE yourself.
Research has shown that concentration and laser focus are key to positive change.
Don’t You Deserve This?
With each Coaching session comes extensive e-mail support. You also receive a complete e-mail summary of each session: (1) What was discussed (2) What progress was made that week (3) How to build on that success, and (4) Personalized homework assignments to keep you building step-by-step.
If You’re Ready to Start to Achieve Your Goals,
Contact me now at mailto:DrSigne@EffectivenessPlus.com.
CONFIDENT SUCCESS ACHIEVEMENT VIA E-MAIL CONSULTING
Wouldn’t It Be Great If You Could Have …
- An expert available to answer your questions about confident success achievement, resistances, fear of success or failure, and interpersonal communication?
- An advisor to help you brainstorm ways to address personal and work tasks, predict possible effects of change, overcome presentation obstacles, evaluate solutions, and provide feedback?
- A mentor to direct you to relevant resources to achieve success with confidence?
There are times when you could use some information, exploratory prompting, guidance, or mentoring but you don’t need the long-term coaching. It’s at these times you could benefit from personal e-mail consulting from Dr. Signe. It’s like having your OWN on-call professional.
Getting this personal assistance has never been easier. Any time you want a little help all you have to do is decide what specifically you want help with.
CSA E-Mail Consulting is a confidence-building, solution-finding, personal development approach you can apply to any area. In fact, any individuals desiring to increase their personal, social, or work effectiveness, to feel more confident, competent and satisfied in any aspect of their lives, can gain numerous advantages from having it.
How Does This Differ From Confident Success Achievement Coaching?
While CSA Coaching may be of several months’ duration, E-mail Consulting is short-term. It is focused on one specific area, issue, question, problem, roadblock, or desired result.
Why Choose Dr. Signe as Your Confident Success Achievement Coach or E-Mail Consultant?
As your CSA coach or mentor, I have what you need:
- Expertise, 30-years’ experience and caring
- Personalized attention
- Customized individual program
- Productive feedback
F-R-E-E YOURSELF NOW. SUCCEED. ACHIEVE YOUR DREAMS!
Join the thousands of others who have discovered their resistances; alleviated their social fears; discovered how to plan to create desired change; developed their interpersonal savvy and confidence; optimized their communication and relationships in personal and work settings; and created a more engaged and fulfilling life for themselves.
ALL information is held in the strictest confidence.
If You Want Guidance or Your Questions Answered,
Contact me NOW at mailto:DrSigne@EffectivenessPlus.com .
if you want to learn how to alleviate only your speaking and small talk fear and would prefer not to work one-on-one with a coach just yet, you can take my How to Speak Without Fear Small Talk Course which is a comprehensive, 196-page home-study course now on Kindle. You can take the course in the privacy of your own home and work at your own pace, The choice is yours.